Men's Tips — The Secrets Of Jewish Women

A Woman’s Self-Image

Societal Pressure

Many women are taught from a very young age that their worth is somehow tied up in their beauty. Women are praised or ignored for how they look. They are fed millions of images of what "real" beauty is and how they fall short. This takes a toll over time. While it is completely untrue that a woman's value lies only in her appearance, this concept is so deeply embedded in her psyche that we have to work with it. Oftentimes a woman is unable to separate her character values of kindness - nurturing - loving, and hardworking from her looks. She is constantly comparing herself to the "ideal" image of beauty that she herself lacks.

What to do about it

Compliment her often. When she asks for your opinion about her appearance, the only answer is: “You look beautiful in everything”. Remember that her own discomfort with herself is the result of her insecurities. Not a personal rejection of you. Read that again. If she's uncomfortable, do everything in your power to convince her of your desire and attraction. It will sink in. Celebrate the inevitable body changes that occur over time. She is perfect no matter what. Perceive her as she is, the vessel for light and love for your family. Small daily affirmations from the only man who matters in her life will go a long way in repairing the damage society has done to her self image. When she truly believes that you see her, all of her, and find her beautiful, she will open up like a flower forever in bloom.