Family
It is important for a couple to discuss how and when to start a family without causing anger or disappointment. It is advisable to consult with your Rav if one of you feels unprepared to begin a family right away. Before discussing specifics both partners need to acknowledge that it is a very personal conversation and commit to a respectful dialogue. Accept that it is not just oneperson's decision to make and recognize that it will be acollaborative effort. Neither partner should feel that the responsibility lies solely on them. It can be helpful to create a joint timeline of family decisions founded on an actual agreement. Talk openly about fears and discuss the impact ofany proposed path forward. Another subject to consider around family dynamics is the participation of extended family. When it comes to living in harmony with in-laws or siblings, there is a lot of pressure put on couples.The first step to maintaining peace is to establish boundaries. This means that limits need to be set between the couple and family members in order to ensure appropriate behavior and privacy. Couples should also agree on communication methods and what topics are acceptable to discuss with whom. These boundaries need to be kept consistent if they are going to be effective in helping couples coexist with extended family.