The Art Of Touch

Touch is the gateway to seduction. How and where you touch your man can send signals of love and lust straight to his core. Here I will walk you through each zone of the body and give some practical tools for seduction. We will also cover the most important touch, the kiss.

Sarah

Upper Zone… Head, Neck, Shoulders, Chest

Touch his hair lightly, engage the nerve endings in his scalp, move to his ears with a very light massage. If kissing his neck and ears, be careful not to stick your tongue in the ear. Run your fingernails through the back of his hair and whisper in his ear. Tell him he looks hot, tell him how attractive he is, men also need compliments. Stroke his lips lightly with your fingertips.

The neck holds a lot of daily tension, touch lightly and massage to release. Make eye contact with him, he will kiss you, lightly tickle the back of his neck but if he laughs- stop

Kiss his neck below each ear, not too wet of a kiss, light and passionately. 

Engaging the shoulders with a massage is a great way to release his physical tension, build sexual tension, and to relax him and get him talking. Ask an open ended question, get him talking so that you can react to the story with light touching and words of affirmation. 

Men hold a lot of their power in their chest. When you see your man with his shoulders back and chest out, he’s ready to take on anything. Laying your head on his chest makes him feel like your protector. Don’t miss an opportunity to lay your head gently on one side of his chest light but firmly touch his chest and stomach. This will slow the nervous system and bring him into the moment. 

Middle Zone… Stomach, lower back, hands and wrists

The wrists and hands are little known pleasure zones. Sit side by side and lightly touch his inner wrist, proceed to massage his hand. 

His stomach and lower back are connected to his pelvis. Massaging his lower back and spine will awaken this zone.You can lightly place your hand on his lower back when walking to signal your attraction.

There are tons of nerve endings around the belly button, circle it with varying degrees of pressure (not too hard or lightly). Kissing around the belly button can also be a big turn on when the moment is close at hand.

Lower Zone…Legs, feet

Have him lay on his stomach. Start at the bottom of his feet with a gentle massage. Feel free to use the recommended coconut oil. Move up the legs, behind the knees to his inner thighs. Massage up and down the thigh with varying pressure. 

THE KISS

Let’s start with what not to do

• Slimy kissing, leaving saliva on the face

• Don’t stick your tongue so deeply in his mouth that you’re hitting the tonsils.

• Hard, chapped or stiff lips

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s talk about what to do.

Build tension for the kiss. Lean in and pause. Feel the breath and hold close without touching. 

Start the kiss slowly, softening your lips, slightly open, without tension. Don’t go in with the tongue just yet. 

Change the pace. This signals variety and increases the urge. When you get turned on- he gets turned on. Increase the intensity, and the pressure with your tongue and lips. Tilt your head to either side, this sends him the signal that you’re really getting turned on.

Change the pace again, pulling back slightly. Pausing between kissing and grazing lips will stimulate excitement. 

Think to yourself, how do you want to be kissed? Who should initiate the kiss?

Can you lean in for the kiss and get close enough so it can happen?

Can you guide him where you want him to kiss you? Grab his hair and pull his head to where you want him to kiss you. Everywhere.

Let’s take a date night for example…

Ask open ended questions. Get him talking so that you can respond. Touch his arm and tell him that whatever he said was adorable. 

Say things like: I’m having such a good time with you… Rub your shoulders and say it’s a bit chilly. Get close to him, in front of him with nothing in your hands. Slowly move in and put one hand on his chest, slide the other hand to the back of his neck and run your fingers through his hair. 

Pay close attention to how he is responding, without second guessing yourself. Use your body, press yourself against him and gently get close enough for a kiss.

The attraction process begins non-verbally. A simple smile, the look of longing in your eyes is a great way to spark interest. Gaze at his lips when he’s speaking to you. Move in closer to him, flirting with him and finding something on his clothing to touch. Don’t be afraid to feel awkward with the silence.

When he initiates contact with you, pull back ever so slightly, this will slow him down while maintaining non verbal cues that you’re open to him.  

Above all, be present in the moment.