When A Mother Senses Trouble…

Do you suspect your child is sexually active or curious about sex?

1. Initiate an open and non judgemental conversation with your child. Help them feel comfortable and safe sharing their concerns by active listening and validating them. 

2. Try to empathize with their perspective and their need to fit in. Understand their point of view. Avoid jumping to conclusions or making assumptions by showing genuine care about their well being.

3. Establish clear boundaries and expectations regarding behaviors, responsibilities and consequences. Make sure your child understands the importance of sexual boundaries and the reasons behind them. 

4. Spend quality time together to deepen trust and bonding by dedicating time to engage in activities that your child truly enjoys and that you can do together. 

5. Encourage healthy coping mechanisms that teach your child healthy ways to deal with their urges and stress. Encourage fulfilling activities that they can enjoy such as hobbies, sports or creative outlets.

6. Involve other trusted family members, grandparents, aunts, uncles and mentors (without breaching your child’s trust)  for guidance and support. A different perspective or different role model can shed a different light on the situation.

7. Monitor social media and online activities by keeping an eye on your child's public presence. This can often be a source of trouble or distress. Be aware of any cyberbullying, excessive screen time, or engagement with inappropriate people or content. 

8. Foster an open environment at home for any and all questions concerning sex, body image and relationships. Encourages respect for boundaries amongst family members. This will help your child feel safe to share concerns.

9. Practice self care, as a mother it's important to take care of yourself. Seek support from friends and family support groups to ensure you have the emotional strength to help your child effectively. Each situation is unique. It is essential to cultivate resources which will better equip you to respond lovingly.

10. Seek professional help if needed. If the situation is beyond your control or expertise, consider a counselor who specializes in working with teenagers. They can provide support for both you and your child.

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